Are You An Abusive Person?

istock_angrybossMaybe people are stressed about the media doom-and-gloom news lately. The economy isn’t doing too well, and that can cause some concerns. Maybe people are suffering cabin fever and need to release a bit of energy. Maybe too many people are trying too hard to cram too much in a day that only has 24 hours.

Whatever the reason, it isn’t fun to deal with. Being on the receiving end of a bad mood can scrap a person’s day, plain and simple. People are flying off the handle, no one is careful about tone of language, and there’s a lot of misplaced frustration.

Freelancers already have it tough. They have to grin and bear rude remarks, rise above condescending comments, deal with superior attitudes and try to satisfy difficult clients. That’s part of dealing with people. We get it.

Many freelancers are upstanding people. They meet their obligations, offer reliable dedication, deliver on time and they do a good job. Sometimes they still go the extra mile for that client who just wrecked their day with a thoughtless remark.

Freelancers put up with a lot of tough situations. They frequently shove aside work and scramble to put out a client’s fire, knowing that the work they’ve shoved aside is work that other clients will be looking for shortly – and unhappy to learn of the delay.

Freelancers burn the midnight oil, shuffle jobs to make it fit and get it done on time. They make sacrifices that no one knows about. They get insulted, shouted at and abused. There are people in the world who believe that freelancers are there at their beck and call, lowly workers with no feelings.

Of course, most freelancers quickly learn how to stay calm in the face of a storm, how to be diplomatic and firm, how to rise above without internalizing negative comments. They have self-esteem, self-confidence and know their integrity, and they move on.

But that doesn’t mean that they don’t feel hurt, get upset or grumble for a while, and it doesn’t take much to derail a person’s day. One rude comment, one hurtful remark, or one self-centered moment, and a freelancer can be left thinking, “I didn’t deserve that.”

No. You didn’t deserve that. No one ever does.

If you work with a writer, a designer, a coder, a programmer, a marketer, a launch coach, a consultant, or anyone at all, you need to remember that this person isn’t your punching bag. This person is trying to do the best job he or she can for your benefit.

Having a bad day? Upset with your schedule? Unhappy with your marriage? Running late on a deadline? Hate your life? Don’t take it out on your freelancer.

Post by James Chartrand

James Chartrand is an expert copywriter and the owner of Men with Pens and Damn Fine Words, the game-changing writing course for business owners. She loves the color blue, her kids, Nike sneakers and ice skating.