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Sometimes, we’re afraid of what it takes to be successful. You know, like hard work. And discipline. And giving up TV.

Thanks for an insightful post.

Lexi
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@Omar – Personally, I think fear of failure is stronger than fear of success – if you reach for that success and as another commentator implied, are worried you’ll go splat on the ground, that’s a mighty good motivator to stay put, eh?

@Chris – Hehehe, bravos go to the lady, not the sir. (Though I’ll take them anyways!)

@Matthew – I’d say it’s a good idea to figure out exactly what types of tasks don’t scare you, and which do, then ask yourself why. There’s something in there for sure.

@Friar – I am all about letting them indulge their inner hunger.

@Gillian – Single, mortgage-free, family support… those sound like magic words, lol. But honestly? It’s awesome you had that and were able to pursue your dreams furthur.

@James

Oh they didn’t teach you that eh? It’s alright, whenever you need a schooling, FJ will be there

I’m not trying to fluff word it, but fear (which IS real, no doubt) is just one of the tools of the avoidance motivator… just like whining, being negative etc. Also remember that “success” is usually defined by some type of “goal”.

Mr.man-friend wants to be an actor with self-sufficient pay, and while he does have achievement motivation to move towards the goal… it is VERY apparent that his avoidance motivation has a force that’s FAR greater.

And if it’s been 4 years, I duno… I think it might be more than just “fear” that’s holding him back. Obviously it could very well ALL be fear since I don’t know the man but I think after doing some digging, other factors will pop-up.

Oh and let’s not forget, at his major point of conflict, mr.man-friend decided to give in and NOT move to Chicago, and you can read the implications of that in my article but I don’t want this to get any longer.

SO.. haha did all of that make sense or was it a case of verbal diarrhea? Probably both.

I wish this dude the best. Sounds like he’s got the chops, he just needs to overcome his inner conflicts.

Cheers.
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