It’s sort of like judging a book by it’s cover. Well, it’s exactly like doing that.

I’ve done that many times (probably everyone has). My most memorable one had to be the movie “The Silence of the Lambs”. I remember when it was in theatre, I thought, “that sounds like a dumb movie, I’d never want to see it”.

I hadn’t seen a trailer, of course, or read any reviews. So I really had no idea. Then a friend of mine said, “seriously dude, you have to see that movie”.

Similarly many folks I know have said they don’t want to watch “Fight Club” because they think it’s just about guys fighting. And so I say, “you have no idea – do yourself a favour and just watch the movie”.

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No.

HAH! See? I am WOMAN, damn it! I can DEFY you! And clearly I must assert this regularly else you FORGET!

No, seriously, I’m writing copy now, Naomi’s going to look at it in two days, and I will be back home then, and everything will be made of awesome. I have a schedule, I swear. CommentLuv will ensue.

It’s just that damned ‘making money for rent’ factor. Sops up all the time I have, like a big fluffy biscuit of time-soppage.

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@ Brett – You bring up something valuable. It truly *is* a shame that someone would choose not to pursue what he or she found important simply over a disagreement.

I wonder if this isn’t our Canadian way coming into play. I’ve communicated with many Canadians and we all tend to say the same thing: Canucks rock at debate and it’s all good at the end of the day. Plus, we tend to be very diplomatic about it.

I believe that other cultures don’t debate and discuss in the way we tend to do (and are raise to do). I may be wrong, though. Just a thought.

@ Colleen – I appreciate that you don’t always agree with us. I don’t want you to, either. Now, about that fanservience, though…

@ Barbara – The more we age, the more a sleepless night kicks our ass. Rest well.

@ Steph – Honestly, what strikes me about the picture is the eyes as well. I’ve had it for a while and wanted a place that I could use it. The picture does carry emotion, but you brought out something I never thought of – we never specified what emotion, because we realized that we see the woman in many different ways. It’s a picture wide open to subjective opinion, which is part of what makes it cool, I guess.

And I saw a duck, too.

@ Vered – Thank you. I appreciate that. You are right, too. There are many, many pictures out there that are just disgusting or that completely disturb me, and I would never post them here.

@ Rebecca – And getting people to think a little more is exactly what we want. I’m glad we accomplish that.

@ Tei – I want to frame that comment, because I think you said something so very strong that it should be said over and again. Thank you for your support. Now move your fucking blog, would you? Sheesh.

@ Rhodester – Apparently, the best way to stir up controversy is to write something you believe is completely harmless. And when you want a meh response, try to set your own blog on fire. This technique seems to work for me every time. I have yet to figure out if I’m arse backwards or my readers are.

@ Chad – I think Rhodester could use your help…

@ Janice – Ha, I knew you’d have a ton to say. And this: “We’re intelligent people here who can handle a variety of topics and visuals.” This is good. Yes. That’s what I’d hope of people in general, and I’m glad to hear you shout it.

Don’t shout the bit about thorn in side, hot tempers, and stubbornness, though. I prefer the PC-terms charming, adorable and sweet.

@ Kelly – You made me grin. Yeah, it’s a good life. And this:

What the intelligent professionals who linger here appreciate most is the ability to shout disagreements and the twelve sides of every story at least a couple of times weekly to the Men. They shape our thoughts a bit, and we mould theirs, too.

…is fantastic. YES! What I love the most about all the community here is that people aren’t afraid to speak out and discuss and debate – and NO ONE gets all pissy or twisted out of shape. THAT is the Canadian way.

So is the way you spelled mould. I’m so very proud of you.

@ Janice again – No lavender and sand here, thanks. Though they’re two perfectly lovely colors… but… uh… chrome and black, yes?

@ Michael –

Blog comments are so weird that way. It’s like the blog is a screen onto which people project whatever they want to see and then react as if it were undisputed reality.

That’s so true. That’s so, so true. There’s a lot of projection in blog commenting and a great deal of straw men being tossed about too. It is weird.

I find the sex thing another Canadian/American thing. It’s really not a big deal to us, generally. We’re not quite nudist Europeans but skin is skin. Big deal. I mean, when we have many provinces where the women petitioned to have the right to go topless legally on the streets – and they won – sex isn’t much of a fuss.

And I’ll continue to damn us all, don’t worry. My road to hell is already paved with good intentions. Too far to turn around now

@ Everyone – If the issue was a woman being subdued, how come no one got upset about the man that was subdued in the other picture? I mean, damn. He looked like he was about to get the crap beaten out of him… and that was okay, but a “hush” picture wasn’t?

*confused*

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I am not privy to any emails complaining, but I did go back and look at the hand over mouth image again and looked for Laura and Dianne’s comments. They are not objecting about sex, but about power or control in their view. A woman is being subdued for whatever reason.
It wasn’t an issue of sex for them.

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And what you see is no reflection on who you are.

When I read that my first thought was: “bullshit!” But then I thought about it some more and came to this: what we see is a reflection on what we’ve been through, what has made us and formed us up to this point in time.

And boy, if there’s one thing people get messed up about, it’s sex. And when they complain about something like that in comments, it’s because of what they see in themselves, not because of what they see in you. Blog comments are so weird that way. It’s like the blog is a screen onto which people project whatever they want to see and then react as if it were undisputed reality.

You’re right about being damned if you do and damned if you don’t. But I’ll take damned over boring any day.

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Lavender and sand are awesome.

Now, if I could only get a second opinion…

Later,

Kelly

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