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By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 01:14:03 +0000

Thanks for the post. It’s hard for me to forgive myself when I make a writing mistake, especially when I’ve worked so hard to break into a certain market.

But what’s not hard for me anymore is knowing when to say no. I once worked with a client who alternated in between telling me I had given a piece “too much personality” to “stripped it of all personality” on a twice-daily basis. It was just too much and we mutually agreed it wasn’t a good partnership. We left on good terms and I never looked back.

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By: nick

nick — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 08:22:19 +0000

Perfection is important, but not perfection itself. I think it is the pursuit of perfection and always trying to improve that is important. nicks last blog post..Personal Development for Smart People

By: James

James — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 14:19:43 +0000

@ Steve – I’m so with you on the definition of self-value based on delivery of a product. That’s a killer right there, and so many people have that issue going on. Separating you from your work is crucial.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 14:16:49 +0000

Steve, LOL! I know at lot of folks suffering in IGTBCDAWNRBHBICSTIRADM-ville. Good one. Regards, Kelly Kellys last blog post..Only One Candidate Can Give You Speaking Tips This Fresh!

By: Steve Errey

Steve Errey — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 13:09:36 +0000

Good observation James. The perfection thing works in a couple of ways. People carry around an expectancy that what they do needs to be perfect, and their value of themselves is based on whether they deliver against that expectancy. As you say, as nobody’s perfect they never deliver against the expectancy and constantly feel like they’re sub-par.

The other way is when people chase perfection in the hope of receiving praise and validation – it feels pretty good to hear someone say that something you did was perfect.

Both of these are only going to lead to one place – I’m-going-to-be-constantly-disappointed-and-will-never-really-be-happy-because-I’m-chasing-something-that-isn’t-real-and-doesn’t-matter-ville. Catchy, huh?

By: Mantecanaut

Mantecanaut — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 02:04:55 +0000

I find writing solipsistic drivel works well for me. Mantecanauts last blog post..A Matter of Life and Death and The Shipping Forecast.