Comments on: Take the Heat or Get Out of the Kitchen http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:42:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Daria Werbowy Pic http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1524 Daria Werbowy Pic Fri, 22 Feb 2008 04:02:05 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1524 <strong>Daria Werbowy Pic...</strong> I Googled for something completely different, but found your page...and have to say thanks. nice read.... Daria Werbowy Pic…

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]]> By: Do you own a business or a job? at The Shane & Peter Inc. Blog http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1523 Do you own a business or a job? at The Shane & Peter Inc. Blog Thu, 13 Dec 2007 08:41:52 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1523 [...] This is a guest post from our friend, James. His blog was just awarded #4 in the 2007 top ten blog for writers contest. He and his business partner Harry run a company of more than 30 writers pumping out PLR articles. [...] [...] This is a guest post from our friend, James. His blog was just awarded #4 in the 2007 top ten blog for writers contest. He and his business partner Harry run a company of more than 30 writers pumping out PLR articles. [...]

]]> By: Courtney http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1513 Courtney Wed, 21 Nov 2007 18:06:56 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1513 Oh. My. God. I just wrote the owner of Wahm.com a note and reported that post. As if I wasn't ready to wash my hands of that group. Sheesh. Melissa, if I had been in your position, I would have reported the thread too. You have nothing to be a ashamed about in the least bit. Oh. My. God. I just wrote the owner of Wahm.com a note and reported that post. As if I wasn’t ready to wash my hands of that group. Sheesh.

Melissa, if I had been in your position, I would have reported the thread too. You have nothing to be a ashamed about in the least bit.

]]> By: Melissa M. http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1517 Melissa M. Wed, 21 Nov 2007 15:24:47 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1517 I think in retrospect my response was immature as well. I did call names and perhaps shouldn't have done that. I apologize again. Kimberly is right, I can't call people high school and call names myself. Want a really great laugh? The WAHMS made up a fake post from me here: http://www.wahm.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=489551 I'm not going to respond as I think it's just silly, but the Meissa Mc post is not me. I'm done with this. Thanks James. I'll still come back and comment on your blog but it will be about writing. I think in retrospect my response was immature as well. I did call names and perhaps shouldn’t have done that. I apologize again. Kimberly is right, I can’t call people high school and call names myself.

Want a really great laugh? The WAHMS made up a fake post from me here:

http://www.wahm.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=489551

I’m not going to respond as I think it’s just silly, but the Meissa Mc post is not me. I’m done with this. Thanks James. I’ll still come back and comment on your blog but it will be about writing.

]]> By: James http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1516 James Wed, 21 Nov 2007 14:57:44 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1516 Here's a solution: Everyone who commented in this thread that doesn't already have a warning has now been warned. I'm going back to work now. Here’s a solution: Everyone who commented in this thread that doesn’t already have a warning has now been warned.

I’m going back to work now.

]]> By: James http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1515 James Wed, 21 Nov 2007 14:56:18 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1515 @ Kimberly - No, we're not being selective. Prior to this fiasco of a molehill turned mountain and set on fire to blaze through the night, we had no commenting policy at all and everything ran smoothly. By the time commentators started ripping into each other, we were sitting here blinking at the monitors thinking, "Oh crap. Now what do we do?" When we felt the situation was getting out of hand, we tried to handle it as best possible. We were exhausted and tired and fed up. We decided on some social rules and implemented them for the situation at the current moment. Backtracking in time wasn't being selective - it just didn't seem logical - do you punish a person for something they did six months ago? Or do you deal with the here and now and move forward? I'm not going to read back over the comments to pick apart everything, analyze and examine them. Note there is a difference between saying, "This is childish," and saying, "You are a bad reader." There is also a difference between attacking a person's behavior and attacking the person. I don't like "you" statements. I prefer "I think statements" all the way. @ Kimberly – No, we’re not being selective. Prior to this fiasco of a molehill turned mountain and set on fire to blaze through the night, we had no commenting policy at all and everything ran smoothly.

By the time commentators started ripping into each other, we were sitting here blinking at the monitors thinking, “Oh crap. Now what do we do?”

When we felt the situation was getting out of hand, we tried to handle it as best possible. We were exhausted and tired and fed up. We decided on some social rules and implemented them for the situation at the current moment.

Backtracking in time wasn’t being selective – it just didn’t seem logical – do you punish a person for something they did six months ago? Or do you deal with the here and now and move forward?

I’m not going to read back over the comments to pick apart everything, analyze and examine them.

Note there is a difference between saying, “This is childish,” and saying, “You are a bad reader.” There is also a difference between attacking a person’s behavior and attacking the person. I don’t like “you” statements. I prefer “I think statements” all the way.

]]> By: Kimberly http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1514 Kimberly Wed, 21 Nov 2007 14:43:15 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1514 Here's the two places where this post turned (if anyone is still following, I came over from IB): "From my POV, just shutting down a topic with no warning is a little childish." and then also here: "I think you have a right to know they’re talking about you at WAHM which is why everyone is coming out of the woodwork to attack you." Prior to that, it was a great, interesting discussion and very informative! Thanks! PS_ @blog owner. I'm noticing you're being a little selective at whom you're telling to play nice. If I'm reading correctly, a "Melissa MCann" started the namecalling with words like "snotty" and "nastiness" days ago. No warnings there. Is it cause she's a supporter? Interesting. Here’s the two places where this post turned (if anyone is still following, I came over from IB):

“From my POV, just shutting down a topic with no warning is a little childish.”

and then also here:

“I think you have a right to know they’re talking about you at WAHM which is why everyone is coming out of the woodwork to attack you.”

Prior to that, it was a great, interesting discussion and very informative! Thanks!

PS_ @blog owner. I’m noticing you’re being a little selective at whom you’re telling to play nice. If I’m reading correctly, a “Melissa MCann” started the namecalling with words like “snotty” and “nastiness” days ago. No warnings there. Is it cause she’s a supporter? Interesting.

]]> By: Steve http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1522 Steve Tue, 20 Nov 2007 22:09:15 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1522 Interesting takes at Itty Biz: http://ittybiz.com/moral-of-the-story-psycho-blogger-edition-with-bonus/#comment-590 LOL at "you're all adults here people: from the person that was the catalyst here. Interesting takes at Itty Biz:
http://ittybiz.com/moral-of-the-story-psycho-blogger-edition-with-bonus/#comment-590

LOL at “you’re all adults here people: from the person that was the catalyst here.

]]> By: James http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1521 James Tue, 20 Nov 2007 19:02:23 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1521 Don't apologize. You did the right thing. That's what's important, even though the results of sharing that "right thing" might make a mess. Plenty of good things came from this. I learned a few things (probably not the lessons many people wanted me to learn, either!), I made some new friends, I've gained a few readers, and I've found support where I least expected it. I've been really surprised at the whole effect of the situation. It's been an experience for sure, and all experiences are good for learning - not an experience I'd like to repeat, mind you, but hey. I appreciated knowing what was going on. In Quebec, where I'm from, people are very, very direct, straightforward and blunt. If you have a problem, you take it up with the person. No one else gets involved. We all believe every person can take care of themselves and that's how things work. Basically, you acted like a Quebecois. :) It's a good thing. No apologies. Don’t apologize. You did the right thing. That’s what’s important, even though the results of sharing that “right thing” might make a mess.

Plenty of good things came from this. I learned a few things (probably not the lessons many people wanted me to learn, either!), I made some new friends, I’ve gained a few readers, and I’ve found support where I least expected it.

I’ve been really surprised at the whole effect of the situation. It’s been an experience for sure, and all experiences are good for learning – not an experience I’d like to repeat, mind you, but hey.

I appreciated knowing what was going on. In Quebec, where I’m from, people are very, very direct, straightforward and blunt. If you have a problem, you take it up with the person. No one else gets involved. We all believe every person can take care of themselves and that’s how things work.

Basically, you acted like a Quebecois. :) It’s a good thing. No apologies.

]]> By: Courtney http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen/#comment-1520 Courtney Tue, 20 Nov 2007 19:01:43 +0000 http://menwithpens.ca/take-the-heat-or-get-out-of-the-kitchen#comment-1520 This is getting ridiculous. If you think you're helping the situation, or "defending me" in any way....please don't. I don't need defense. And James definitely doesn't deserve to be berated. James and I have made peace...please just move on and get some writing work done. This is getting ridiculous. If you think you’re helping the situation, or “defending me” in any way….please don’t. I don’t need defense. And James definitely doesn’t deserve to be berated. James and I have made peace…please just move on and get some writing work done.

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