The Proven 3-Step Formula for Success

The Proven 3-Step Formula for Success

If there’s one thing that devastates us, that stops us from doing what we’re truly capable of and prevents us from achieving our dreams, it’s fear of failure.

Many of us go through our lives never knowing what we could have done… if we hadn’t given up our dreams.

What if you had given up on learning to talk, walk, read, ride a bike, or any other achievements before you were even 5 years old?  How different would your life have turned out if you’d given up instead of sticking with them?

Now, how different has your life been because of the goals you gave up? Because you were afraid that you would fail? How many experiences and opportunities have you missed out on because you couldn’t get past that invisible barrier of fear?

Think about this:

If fear of failure or fear of rejection had stopped some of the world’s greatest innovators, we’d have no iPhone, no Disney World, no light bulb, no television, no automobile, and no computer – all because a few people looked at failure as something bad.

Thomas Edison failed some 10,000 times before inventing the light bulb

Walt Disney experienced three total bankruptcies before he created his first profitable animation studio.

What is the world missing out on because you let fear of failure in the way or because you gave up too early… and how do you overcome this invisible barrier so you can reach your full potential?

The Proven Formula for Success

Many of us spend our lives looking for the “key to success” like it’s hidden somewhere; like we’re going to find it and if we do, our entire lives will change.

But here’s the truth:

You’ve had the formula for success all along. The problem is that you’ve forgotten it, forgotten how well it works, and you had a lot of bad information put in your head that suppressed it.

So what is the formula?

  • Visualize what you want to do.
  • Set a goal for yourself.
  • Keep moving forward until you accomplish that goal.

Every time we used this formula as children, we accomplished our goals.

But, as adults, we think that if we haven’t reached achievement by a certain time, it’s not for us. Or if we don’t get there fast enough or after a certain number of attempts, we get discouraged, and decide it’s the wrong goal.

This is a proven formula for FAILURE.

As children, we dream big. We don’t let anyone mess with our grand vision. We simply go for what we want and constantly stick with it until we get it.

But as adults, every day, millions of us talk ourselves out of greatness and limit our ideas of what’s possible, all because we decided to sell out our dreams to someone else’s opinion.

Once you see failure as a negative, you take your eyes off your goal. Your logical mind gets in your way. You begin to question why you can’t reach your goals, why you’re not good enough, or why you can’t get to where you want to go, instead of holding the image of your dream and course-correcting every step of the way until you get there

Successful people don’t let these perceptions of failure clutter their mind, mess with their vision, shift their persistence, or alter their goals. They keep the mindset of persistence and focus close to heart.

Failure is a necessary part of success. Failure is a sign that you’ve stepped outside what you already know how to do and are growing.

If you’re not pushing yourself to do what you presently don’t know how to do, you’re not growing. And when you’re growing, you make mistakes. You’re setting a goal, taking action, and everything that happens along the way is part of the learning experience.

If you follow the time-trusted, proven formula of holding onto your vision and course-correcting along the way until you eventually achieve your goal, you’ll nearly guarantee you’ll achieve success.

The only question left is what goal you’ll envision and start learning about today. Let me know in the comment section.

Post by Chris Nosal

Chris Nosal writes at chrisnosal.com, where he writes about self-help, inspiration, and marketing advice that inspires people to go for their goals and achieve their dreams.

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  1. Brilliant, and timely … I really needed to read this today. Thank you. I will stop staring at the Google Analytics page and doing exactly what you have said, looking for a reason to give up.

    • Hey Thomas,

      Thanks for your comment!

      I’ve fallen into that trap too (although I use Statcounter, because I like true real-time results), and even though I used the analytics in the beginning I even eventually wound up disabling it to focus solely on creating content and marketing.

      It’s good to track results once you get more stable traffic, but the numbers can be a distraction when you’re first starting out.

      I actually disabled mine for a while just to focus on my blog (I knew the results would come one way or another), and plus it allows me to focus on doing what I love most (writing content, working with people, and creating products).

      Once you get things stabilized and are working on creating constant traffic (after your blog is somewhat set up and ready to go, then you should start tracking, but you need to be detached as you said).

      Don’t EVER give up; you never know what the world might have missed out on had you not persisted, and both you AND the world will miss out if you do,,, so there’s a LOT riding on your success! 🙂

  2. While I agree with you on the whole, you overlook the fact that not everyone visualises, I don’t. As a hypnotherapist, I occasionally see clients who don’t either, or who cannot manipulate images enough for them to be of any use. In these cases people have to use other submodalities to affect change.

    • Hey Patricia,

      You’re right. It’s more an issue of semantics though (although I should have considered it when writing the article).

      It’s not necessarily that you have to visualize. It’s more set an intention or outcome and hold it in your mind, because the examples I provided (learning to walk, talk, swim, etc.) are examples of things all of us have done during our lives, so anyone can do this.

      But you’re right. Like anything, it’s a very personal experience, and does need to be adjusted to the individual’s needs, but in terms of this article it’s more giving a personal the general premise of looking at failure in a new way based on a new model of perception that we’ve all experienced in our past, and that anyone can apply with some minor adjustments.

      Thanks taking the time out of your day to read my article and comment. I’m grateful for your advice as well! 🙂

  3. Good post Chris,

    I wish people would learn more about Nicolas Tesla.

    Edison gets waaaay too much credit.

    However good point just the same.

    One thing to add to the mix is to review the results of your actions.
    The easiest way to get discouraged is to keep doing the same activities that aren’t yielding results.

    You have to be ready to adjust.

    • One thing I love about Tesla is that Edison’s concepts were way more logical and grounded; Tesla dreamed of something truly incredible (like the Wright brothers) and had to have the confidence to face society and truly believe in his vision more than all the people telling him it couldn’t be done, but had he quit at any point wireless technology might have become decades (centuries?) behind what it is today, and while everyone ridiculed his vision, and told him to give up, they were sure happy to embrace cell phones and wi-fi because he didn’t.

      What I always say that most people don’t think about, is that it’s not just YOUR dreams you’re missing out on; the world is losing out on something VERY special that can benefit humanity as a whole if you give up on your dreams… so that gives you a LOT more incentive to keep going.

  4. Brandie Mcnemar says:

    I think these are great tools if you can use them. Success shouldn’t seem to hard to attain, we just have to be ready ourselves to greet it and take it on. I have been reading Ronald Coopers How to Win in Life in a Greater Way and he’s got some great thoughts on how we can see success in our lives. Worth a look for sure, a great motivational read with great ideas. The comments here are phenomenal, they have been as effective for me to read as the post was! Thanks everyone!

    • The great thing is that understand the most basic fundamentals of we (as humans) work, it can completely change your life. I’ll check out Ronald Cooper too (I haven’t heard of him), but it’s definitely worth a look. Thank you so much for your support; I’m grateful.

  5. Hi Chris,

    This is great advice. No matter how you look at it or say it, we aren’t born with a fear of failure. If we were, we would never learn much at all or accomplish anything–we wouldn’t even make it to adulthood or even go to school or get on a school bus (or whatever). But we learn it because we’re constantly pushed back or punished or criticized (or just don’t get much of a reward) whenever we do fail even though it’s such a normal part of life–just like falling down while learning to walk or not saying words right while learning to talk.

    I like what you said about “course correction,” too. Easy to make a comparison to sports: if you’re not making progress as a skier or skater or gymnast and so on, maybe you’re just not doing that move correctly. Adjust accordingly and surge forward. Same applies in any area where we’re trying to achieve something, like writing. Lots of people let fear stop them.

    This is part of why the Nike slogan “Just do it” became so popular. Let go of the crap in your head (fear of failure) and just do it.

    Nice post!

  6. Great post Chris.

    My take on this is people should learn to focus. Just pick one method of earning online and focus on it like your life depends on it. There are TONS of shiny objects here in the internet and if you aren’t careful, you’ll get lost and eventually get frustrated.

    Just try one method and stick with it. You’ll then be an expert at what you do and see results for it.

    • That’s the logic most people teach, however they often miss the point of taking intelligent action vs. unintelligent action; like they’ll learn really bad information, or information that worked in someone else’s situation, then when it doesn’t work for them they will keep trying something that doesn’t working, thinking if they try harder or do more it will. In that sense, if you try just one method and stick with it, you can stop yourself from innovating and succeeding (personal experience). It’s more figure out what you want, and try 10,000 different things until you find what works.

      • I’m not sure how my message came across but I simply meant that you need to look for a method of earning and focus on it.

        I definitley agree with “It’s more figure out what you want, and try 10,000 different things until you find what works.”

        My premise is that you try the 10,000 different things that’ll work on the one method that you chose and committed on.

        Of course, when I said pick one method, it should still be based on somethign that you like and have researched on while comparing it to other online earning methods that you think you might also like.

        But once you’ve decided on which method of earning, you have to stay committed to your decision until you attain the level of success that you wanted to achieve. Otherwise you’ll just receive mediocre success because of jumping from one method to another.

  7. This post is so true, so spot on. I’ve been writing about this very same concept about how we talk ourselves out of our dreams. The analogies and examples you used, hopefully can remind us that success is tied up in failure and vice versa. The issue is that we only see people after the successes. We don’t see them when they’re struggling and failing.

    • The issue I found with the way most people teach this topic is they say abstract words like “open up” or “believe in yourself” or “don’t talk yourself out of your dreams”, which you already knew inside, but they don’t explain HOW to do any of it; like telling someone if their car isn’t working, “fix your car and it will work” without giving them any new information they can actually use to change their results… when you get new information you get a new way of looking at life, and you can change your results because you have something you didn’t have before in your “toolbox”… but you’re right; we can’t see our successes if we focus on failures because our conscious mind can only be focused on one thing about one situation at a time, and we can either focus on the good side or bad side (every situation has both!)

  8. One thing I teach is to visualize the goal like you say, but to an obsession. It’s something always nagging at you.

    I’m a huge disciple of Napoleon Hill and this is what he teaches, obsess, go over your goals daily until your subconscious mind “attracts” what you need and where to find opportunity.

    It’s definitely a controversial topic but I love it!

    • Law of attraction is another favorite topic of mine; you can only move in the direction of whatever you focus on, and I totally agree!

  9. great post.

    the fear of failure lets you stay in your comfort zone. the effect is that you only choose goals who are easy to accomplish (average goals). which such goals the outcome can naturally only be as good as average.

    many people (this includes me) forget that IF you fail halfway to an awesome goal, what you have already accomplished is at least average. but like you don’t stop after eating half your favorite pudding, you shouldn’t stop on half the way with your goals.

    thanks for the article

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